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Peer Guide to Being Out at School!
- Compiled by Stacy Bias & SarahBeth Collins 3) Coming Out to Close Friends - this can be pretty scary as well. What are some good ways to approach those closest to you? What are some productive ways to handle it if they're not cool with your sexuality?
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The first person I ever told was my best friend in fifth or sixth grade. At first she was surprised, and she didn't take it that great, but she didn't completely freak out. It took her a while to get used to it, but she realized that I was still the same person I was before, there was just something new about me to know. I told another friend, too, and I brought up the subject a lot to feel out her thoughts on it and she never acted like she cared. So after a while I just told her and she thought it was cool. So just bring up the topic and if they act like they're ok with it, it's probably safe.
 SAYS:
Telling close friends is a big relief. At least it was for me. Telling people your own age, that you really care about, that you're gay or lesbian or bi isn't really hard after you muster up the strength to do it. Most of the time they'll accept you for who you are. Sometimes it's a good idea to know their opinion on the subject before you tell them. Ask them what they think of it in a subtle way so you can better guess their reaction.
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I'm a bi transsexual. I told my friends. I just told them up front. You risk a lot of friends that way, but I found out that most of them are pretty freaky themselves. As long as you get comfortable with your friends and know that you might have to deal with other opinions and other people, you should be all right.
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Coming out to my best friend: What happened was, she came out to me right before I did, so we ended up coming out at the same time. Coming out to my other close friends, it turned out that most of them were either bi or gay themselves, so it wasn't really a big deal. If your friends don't accept you for who you are, then they're not really worth having as friends.
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I didn't really have any close friends before I came out. But when I did come out I actually made more friends. I didn't really care what people thought anymore, and it's always better to feel good about yourself. You don't have to worry about what your friends think because that's just who you are.
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