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Bye, Bi Blackbird
- By Heather Corinna  I have had, in my life, more lesbian friendships than relationships. Overall, I just get along with men a bit better, romantically as well as platonically, in the long haul. But in those friendships, when walking down the street, sitting at coffee, or casually eavesdropping, inevitably some "slut" is pointed out who is bisexual (or seen as such, regardless of how she identifies) who left someone for...a man. Gasp. Wake up and smell the macchiato: it happens. To everyone. Women leave women for men. Women leave men for women. People leave people because people just leave sometimes, and no orientation can lessen the risks we take in any relationship. If we think it can, we're probably a lot closer to denial than we are to our partners.
As a sex educator, I have encountered more than one lesbian who has a sexually transmitted disease. A few of them have gotten them from men, which of course has it's own sad shame in the lesbian community. Sadder still though, are those who have caught them from women, but do not tell a soul for years because they are deathly afraid that they will be perceived as less of a dyke (because of the myth that lesbians cannot transmit disease, it is assumed they MUST have slept with a man) or worse still, as a bisexual. It wouldn't be half as sad if most times that fear wasn't valid. Unfortunately, it usually is. Too often, in the lesbian community, bisexual is a four-letter word, and not the sort anyone wants to reclaim.
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ABOUT HEATHER
Heather Corinna is the Editor of Scarlet Letters: A Journal of Femmerotica, Femmerotic and Scarleteen, three highly lauded sexuality sites. Her work has been applauded by the Kinsey Institute, Yahoo!, Playboy, AVN, the San Francisco Weekly, the Boston Phoenix, The Minneapolis City Pages, and other venues. She has written on sex and sensibility for numerous internet and print publications and anthologies, and she was an honorary speaker on freedom of speech and sexuality for the Illinois Library Assocation last year.
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