This Month's Questions;Each month, Madam Lichtenstein graciously answers those burning questions you've sent her. Consulting both your astrology chart and/or her Tarot cards, she uses her years of experience, common sense and innate talents to send you along on your journey well-equipped and well-informed. Here are this month's questions!
Q. I've fallen madly in love with this girl over the summer. her b-day is April 9, 1983. i was wondering if, despite the fact that it's lond distance, will we have a long lasting relationship
A. Madam L consulted the tarot cards to answer your question. According to the cards, it will be brief but memorable. It seems that it may be difficult to maintain a long distance relationship, even though it is what both of your want. Too many problems. Too much effort. But you know, everything is possible to willing hearts. Give it a shot - prove the cards wrong!
Q. I've been in a steady relationship for the past few months or so. My girlfriend's birthday is on 10-28-85. (And yes, we're young.) Lately I've run into a lot of trouble with my parents and I feel that they're disgusted with me ever since they've found out about our relationship. Will they eventually learn to accept me? I've also been wondering about "coming out" at school. There are a lot of homosexuals around here, and I'm sure that many of them, like me, are hiding it. Would it be all right to "come out"? And one last question-- will things go well between my girlfriend and I? Thanks for your time!
A. The tarot cards say that yes, after a time, your parents will accept you. It's going to take a bit of time (The Hanged Man) because I believe that they are still processing and learning (7 of wands card). Give them time but never compromise who you are for anyone.As far as coming out at school is concerned, I believe that you are in high school (from your young age...sigh!!!). I'm sure that this will generate lots of discussion, but Mother Lichtenstein suggests that you wait until college. The tarot cards say "avoid being reckless" (six of swords). If you should decide to come out at school anyway, the cards don't seem to indicate that anything bad would happen but decide carefully as to how you would proceed.
And question 3 - you and your girlfriend: The cards indicate great long term potential. How do you like that??
Q. I'm young, I know, and I'm not looking for a soul mate (although that would be nice). What I want to know, is when am I going to find a girlfriend? Where should I look for her? My other question is whether or not i should inform my best two best friends (a guy- 8.30.83 and a girl- 2.29.84) whether or not I'm gay. I have an idea that they'd be ok with it, but i'm concerned as to how it will affect my friendship with he girl (who is very, very straight, although not homophobic). thanks a bunch, you really rock.
A. Flattery will get you everywhere!I check the tarot cards for all your questions. First I asked if you would find your soulmate within the next year. The cards say that while you will definitely have an active social life, your soulmate is going to take a little longer to find. However, enjoy the trial and error!
Question 2: I'm all for honesty in relationships. As far as your best friends are concerned I see support but possible endings. The ten of Swords indicates endings so you can make new beginnings. It could mean a new phase in your friendships but it can also mean a conclusion so you will have new beginnings elsewhere. Sadly, these discussions are often a risk but my feeling is if you can't be yourself with your best friends, then they are not your best friends after all. Please let me know what you decide to do and how it goes.
Q. I like this girl a lot and we have talked almost everday for the past two months. We have hung out quite often and I told her i like her a lot she said the same can you give me some advice about dating girls, I think I need to move our friendship to the next level and i would like some advice on that with out scaring her away.
A. Well you've succeeded in the most important step - finding a girl who you like,
who likes you. A big congratulations! I checked you out astrologically and here is what I found - you have sun in capricorn -- you lack confidence, babe. moon in virgo - emotionally you are very conservative mercury and mars in capricorn - you tend to think of everything that can go wrong and underestimate yourself. You check and recheck your actions because you are sure they can be better. venus in pisces - ah but very romantic!My advice to you is to give yourself a little credit for being very attractive to someone who you find attractive. Let your most romantic thoughts Out! Go with the Piscean flow. All that capricorn energy is strong but insecure. Think of how great you are when your personal capricron gremlins try to undercut you and hold you back. In other words, girlfriend, let yourself go and relax and enjoy!
Q. The lady I care for, born 2/20/1982, recently admitted to caring for me too....She isn't sure about her birthtime, she says it's either 3AM, 10 AM, or 3PM... I'm thinking long-term but I think she's not ready to think that far ahead. She writes wonderfully and she knows I'm a very good artist; I want to suggest collaborating in some way... can we have a future at all and should it include a joint career path?
A. Congratulations! It's always nice to know that your affections are reciprocated. Because I need a more exact birthtime for your girlfriend, I answered your question with the tarot deck. The result is interesting. I would say that you two should not mix business with pleasure - decide if this is a love match or a business collaboration. And from what I see of the cards.... choose love. Lucky girl!
Q. I've been living in Europe (Barcelona) for the past 15 years, just turned 40 and am thinking of moving back to the states (Seattle).Europe has been good, but I miss access to a varied community of lesbians (esp. of color- like me!).Should I move back? Thank you
A. I asked the tarot cards whether you would be happy moving back to the States and they say yes - but expect delays (Temperance card) because of worries about work (2 swords). But I see friends, good times and long term profitability with the move. Allllright!
Q. My exgf-(her D.O.B: 4/9/74). Is she my soulmate? My D.O.B, 1/5/77. We're still good buddies and I still love her to bits.. sigh..
A. Let's check the tarot cards.... I asked if you two would get back together within the next 6 months. There is great promise here (The Star card) but each of you needs to do some exploring on your own (The Fool card - the eternal student). Go out and meet new girlfriends, keeping in touch with you ex as you go. You may find someone else who is excellent for you, or both of you may discover that what you had is well worth restoring. A few taste tests can help you define and refine your palette, so to speak :)
Q. i was just brutally dumped by a woman to whom i was engaged. i'll be going off to an all-women college in a few weeks and, knowing that there will be lotsa dykes there, i need some romantic advice. should i wait a while and recover from my lost love or dive into a new relationship right away? and when i do start looking for a new woman, which sign would be best with my rather eccentric yet very Capricorn personality? thanks for the help.
A. Well I'm going to respond like Mother Lichtenstein: Why decide one way or the other to meet or not meet someone new. WHy not just make your way through your first semester meeting new friends and keeping yourself open to possibilities.Now who is good for you? You have sun in capricorn, possibly moon in Capricorn, mercury in Capricorn, venus in aquarius and mars in libra. Oh yes, you have loads of conservative, prim, serious, practical Cap in your chart, but, just as you say, there is a bit of an unorthodox jolt with your venus (the planet of love) in wild Aqueerius and mars (your energy and how you fight) in charming, disarming Libra.
You give off a certain message when one meets you and befriends you and quite another once they pierce your stern veneer and get romantically involved with you. You can be rather distant in love - preferring to love all womankind rather than just one particular woman. Who is best for you? How about what can you do to increase the heat between the sheets?
Ideally, seek an earthy woman (Taurus or Virgo in venus) with a nice touch of air (Libra, Aquarius, Gemini sun or venus). And you should learn how to focus on one gal, lavish her with love and attention and spoil her mercilously. Okay??? So keep in touch and let me know when you meet her. I KNOW you will.
Q. I have been a friend with this woman(6/22/61) for over 11 years. I have always been atracted to her, but during this time I was in relationships with others as well as she. Now we are both single, even though she is in New York and I am in Maryland. I think I could realy fall in love with her. What will happen between us?
A. After 11 years, this presents a very interesting situation. The tarot cards indicate that she is who you desire (two of Cups), and there is certainly lots of love between you (Ace of Cups) and yet... and yet... there appears to be something going on that you are unaware of that could possibly prove to be disappointing.You have moon (emotions) in pioneering Aries - there is no holding you back. And your venus (planet of love)is in lovely, sexy, easy going Libra. She has moon in Libra (that's good for you) and venus in Taurus (also very sexy but can be a bit routine). Astrologically, you two can mesh. Delve a little deeper in her house habits, sharing issues and day to day contact - maybe that's where the bloom will be off her rose.
Q. Madam: I am in one of those transitional periods that life seems to swing at us sometimes. Work and home life are stable, friends are abundant, but there are still yearnings in this heart of mine! I will be moving in a year or two to atend graduae school in California. I've been very focused on creative projects for the past five years. Dating has been intense and sporadic,due to the fact that i am independent and have a life of my own. Should I just wait until I'm in grad school to meet someone who is more compatible with my needs, or will dating get better in the next year or so?
A. Well, the tarot cards seem to indicate that what you really want and what is really driving you now is to set down foundations and forge ahead on projects so I see some stagnation in the relationship department. But it is your decision to get out of your rut. "Changes where you live" (as indicated with the 7 of cups card) means either a physical move or a change in philosophy will reap great rewards. The ball is in your court.....
Q. I seem to have bizarre taste in partners... both male, before I came out, and female. I have lots of crushes on people, but they never like back. Perhaps, I seek forbidden fruit, as the only relationship that originated from one of my crushes was with a straight woman. Well, a questioning, then straight woman. *sigh* I know there's lots of fab dykes out there, and that what is meant to happen will, but being impatient, I want to fall in love, and now :) Is she coming, and will my mum cause any hassles??
A. Of course she is coming. And it will happen when you least expect it - when you are concentrating on work and putting loads of time and energy into a project. (Ace of Staves and 9 of Pentacles) Work hard, get involved in things. You will find love.
Q. I am in love with my best friend, a Scorpio. We've known each other
for five years. She's bisexual, I'm gay. We're very close, and I couldn't stand to screw up our friendship... my question: is there any chance at all of this being more than a friendship, or should I just give up and try to find somebody else to obsess over?
A. Hmmm so she doesn't know the depth of your feelings? I asked the tarot whether this could be something more and the cards seem to indicate, rather unenthusiastically, that there is the possibility. But I do see someone else - she is a business type, practical, generous, possibly a fire sign (Aries, Sagittarius or Leo). Am I simply seeing your friend? Please send me her birth inforamtion and we can look at astrological compatibility.
Q. i recently ended a 4 1/2 year relationship. my ex's b-day is 9/22/72 1pm or so. although we both agree that this was right for us, i wonder if it really was, or am i a victim to the fairy tale world where passion lives forever? i loved her more than anything once and i don't understand how it all just went away. we're still pretty much best friends and it doesn't seem weird. whatcha think?
A. These things happen and actually, as you describe it, it is not surprising considering that you are just finishing your Saturn Return. The SR is a three year period (27-30) where we undergo great change, turmoil and frustrations. We want change, accomplishment, ideal love etc and nothing seems to come easily or come at all, for that matter. As we turn 30, changes for the better often take place and we emerge stronger and more in control of our destinies. I have an article on the Saturn Return on my website www.AccessNewAge.com, if you want to check it out.
Q. I am Bi and I really don't know what to do. First of all, I am in a relationship with a guy and he has cheated. Well, I have been talking to my best friend we dated for 2 years and then some. I still love her and always will. She gets mad every time she sees someone's car in my drive way. Thinking that it is another girlfriend or boyfriend. She calls to see who it is. She was born on Nov. 26,1982. And I do the same I get jealous when I see someone at her house. We live 5 minutes away from eachother. She is going out with a girl from her work and tells me she ain't but I know whe is i see them hugging and kissing. And it really hurts when I see her kissing another girl. I know she still has feelings for me. When we were together we spent all of our time together. But there was a problem. We argued alot. That's why we broke up. We also broke up because we were to jealous of eachother. What I mean by that is when she went out with her friends I thought she would fall in love with one of them or start liking them. And she did the same with me. I am really confused about this. I don't love the guy i am with now. He was born on Dec. 29,1982. He has cheated and that makes me feel like I can't trust him any more. And I can only think about my friend, i love her alot we have beeen through alot together. So can you give me some advice and help me out with this please.
A. Ah all these raging hormones. It does my old heart good... So Shannon, you have loads and loads of Libra in your chart - sun, moon, mercury, venus, saturn and pluto. With all that easygoing, diplomatic, sociable, charming libra energy, how can you be so possessive and jealous? Maybe it is all sitting in your 7th house of partnerships, but I would have to run your chart on the computer for that. You are young and are still sorting out all these emotions. That being said, my advice, should you decide to take it, is: first, drop the guy - I hate being around someone I don't trust either. second, the tarot cards indicate that your girlfriend should be just that - a friend. Seek your lovergrrl somewhere else. This current relationship has too many headaches (Ace of Swords). So get out there and look for her already!
Q. I've met a girl over the internet and found out that she lives not too far away from me, so we met, and we are now in a relationship. (Her birthday is Feb. 1, 1980.) Things are looking up, but I will be having to go away to a place about 2 1/2 hours away for anorexia treatment, and by time I get back, she will be in college for the year. I also do not drive yet. What I was wondering is will she visit me at my treatment centre any time on her days off of work, and will this relationship work?
A. Don't worry about visitors - The most important thing is to get better. Will the relationship last? The tarot said that it seems promising (The Star card) but there appears to be some obvious problems that you can both see. In seeing them, they can be overcome. Do you know what I am talking about?
Q. Dear Madam L., goddess of all, wonder of wonders... I've fallen hard! My bday is Oct. 10, hers is Oct 23rd... I can't stop thinking about her - she's cute as hell, very intelligent, she seems loyal, respectable, and gentle - everything I am looking for. Problem is, so far she has resisted my hinting for a date. She seems reserved about something... although I know I could make her happy! Should I full-out ask her on a date (seems so blunt!) or is it never meant to be? I'm so bad at being the initiator!!! :) Thank you thank you thank you!
A. Oh you DO go on ! Since I have your complete birth information, I can tell you that you have sun in libra, moon in virgo, mercury in libra and venus in virgo which means that all these libra and virgo planets are collected around the same area of your chart. It makes you quite directioned, as your question indicates.If I had the complete birthdata for your girlfrined, I could calculate her planets too but need her year (at least) and her birthtime. That being said, I checked the tarot and it seems like she is really in a good place, wanted new changes in her life and is making a decision about love. Hmmm. She is really on the fence. WHile you never can tell what the outcome will be, I would think that asking her out is not terribly risky. Let me put it this way, if I saw these cards for myself, I would ask her out.
