This Month's Questions;Each month, Madam Lichtenstein graciously answers those burning questions you've sent her. Consulting both your astrology chart and/or her Tarot cards, she uses her years of experience, common sense and innate talents to send you along on your journey well-equipped and well-informed. Here are this month's questions!
Q. My dearest Madam, is it me or my saturn returns? This year marks the almost 6 years I've been with my Capricorn (1/20/67)girl. we've gone through a lot- she is part of my family (she gets more christmas presents from my family than I do!) and my life but I feel that what I've been afraid of is happening. you see, I need space- LOTS of space. we've been living together for the past 3 years (long distance before). sometime this year- I realized how stifled and identical we've become - very "coupl-ish" much to my disdain. and also I've finally admitted that I've got the wandering eye and want to return to my non-monogamous ways, so I talked to her about it - and she freaked. i want to get out of the inevitability of a rut, I want to sow my wild oats while i'm still young. i lust after someone we're both close to. i yearn to not be resentful when we're identified like we're the same person. oy! i seek your guidance.
A. Oy is right! It DOES sound like the rumblings of a Saturn Return. You want changes... now! and may rush into something that breaks down the structures that you have carefully built over the past few years. The Saturn Reurn ends for you at age 30 so you have a couple of years to navigate the churning waters. I do think that this is temporary - you have your moon (emotions) in virgo - a sign with loads of loyalty and service and you have venus (the planet of love) in steady, dependable cancer. Your sun is just, just in gemini - a sign of duality who needs freedom and can balance several lovergrrls at once. But most of your energy is water (emotional) and earth (dependable and loyal). You have to make your own decision but I'll bet that once you have overeaten your various oats you may come crawling back to her. Will she take you back? A Capricorn with moon in taurus and venus in aquarius? Very possibly, but you will have to be very persuasive!
Q. im going back home after 3 months, i moved to Mo. for my ex g/f, i try to keep the friend ship going , but she says her new g/f dosent like her talking to me. i wanna know if i should try to see her and if there is any hope of us keeping a friendship or getting back together. thanx. (shes a scorpio,11/6/1983)
A. The tarot cards say that you can keep a friendship going (the 3 of cups is a partnership card) but you will have to be diplomatic and be prepared to put up with some nonsense from her current girlfriend (8 of wands). Are you up to it? As far as reigniting love, the cards seem to indicate that you should start slowly - go platonic for now and see where it goes in several months.
Q. I know scorpios and leos really don't mix... I think... but I think I'm in love with my current girlfriend right now. Will it work out? And out of sheer impaitience will I ever have the girl I want? My old and still love is... 11-11-82
A. So who says Leos and Scorpios don't mix? In love affairs, you have to look at what the venus and moon signs are - venus being how we express our love and moon how we express our emotions. So, you have sun in scorpio, moon in cancer and venus in virgo. You are very sensitive and romantic and can also be a bit practical in love. You are a wonderful companion and have the sexy zest of your scorpio sun and the earthy sensuality of your Virgo venus. (Shameless plug: You may want to read my book "HerScopes; A Guide to Astrology for Lesbians" to get the full picture.) Can you please send me your current girlfriend's birthdate so I can have a look? Your old love has sun in scorpio, moon in virgo and venus in scorpio - whatta match - as you can probably tell....
Q. For the last four years I have not had so much as a minor love interest. There has not even been one person I would considering dating. I am a bright, attractive professional with talent in the arts and music. I'm no doggie, but I'm beginning to think the average pound pup has a better chance of finding romance! Any thoughts on where I might look?? See anyone drifting my way???
A. Don't despair! The tarot cards reveal that you will, indeed find love within the next six months - the chariot (success!) the wheel of forunte (good luck) and the 10 of cups (unusual love interest) all popped up. Now here is the secret to your success - you have to get out there and look! Use the next six months to who is Out there!
Q. Will Socorro ever fall for me?
A. Dear Athena, Goddess of War, The tarot cards say this is unlikely (The Devil card popped up - the card of problems) but this person is not worth the effort anyway. Good riddance I say!
Q. a quick thank you and then a question... i asked you a question regarding my best friend and me a while back. thank you for the advice. after talking with her about relationships and the fears that go along with them, i realized that we are better as friends than as anything else. so...again...thank you so much. the question: will i find someone anytime soon? if so, do i know her?
A.Thank you for the feedback. The tarot cards say yes - you will meet someone new in the next six months and she is exactly who you want. I see fertility (!) love and structue (The Empress and Emperor). And I think you will meet her either through work so some outside job. (% of Pentacles) Get going girl!!
Q. Will my g/f and I stay committed to each other and last a lifetime?
A. The tarot cards certainly show longevity although I never tend to ask about "lifetime" committments because the future is always in flux. I tend to ask about, at most, five years (which for some is a lifetime....) I see a woman who is practical and is afraid of being reckless (six of swords and a woman who is tough by nature . I see compatibility - learning new things and cooperation between the two of you. The one thing I don't see is lots of emotion. Try to add more spice as tyhe years pile on!
Q. I can't seem to find the right woman. I am not openly gay, but working on it. I have a few gay friends who set me up, but we just don't click. What do you see should I wait or just plain give up?
A. Dear Pam, Never give up! Going through friends is a good wy of breaking the ice but the tarot cards say that you may wish to try work or small group get togethers (6 of pentacles) like maybe clubs? I see promise (The Star) but also problems (The Devil) because of a fear of being reckless (Six of swords). As you get over your fear, you will have more success. Nothing is impossible to a willing heart. Good luck in your pursuit.
Q. I was with a gemini (6-3-62) for seven years. Then met another gemini (6-1-70) I have been seeing her for two years. I feel "connected" to both but not committed to either. The obvious simularities are amazing, as are the extreme differences. There is constant friction with both. Is this to be expected with the combination of signs?
A. It's interesting how we gravitate to certain signs! There must be something about the flirtatiousness of the Gemini woman that attracts you. The differences are in their individual planetary placements of the other planets (from the moon to pluto). As I always say, you have to look at the entire chart! As far as the love planets are concerned: Your 1962 lady has moon (emotions) in gemini and venus (love) in cancer. Your 1970 gal has moon in taurus and venus in cancer. You have moon in scorpio and venus in aries. Both women have venus in cancer so there must be a strong connection with your sensitive and romantic taurus sun and cancer moon that really connects with the cancer venus type. Your 1970 lovergrrl also has moon in taurus which tickles your taurean sun. Another aspect is your venus in pioneering aries - for some reason, and I have seen it time and time again - aries and geminis are a firecracker sexual combination. Oh lucky girl! For true connection, you may want to seek someone with more water in her chart - especially cancer and scorpio - or earth (taurus, capricorn and virgo). But will it have the sexual spark?
Q. I am a 29 yr woman married to a gay man. (He is my best friend and we got married when we were both still in the closet.) Now I am wondering if and when we might summon up the courage to part ways or will I always have him in my life? Also, I am dying to meet my soul mate...when do you think I might meet her? -Hopeful romantic in New Jersey XOXO
A. You are still going through your Saturn Return which is a three year period (from 27-30) of change, flux and stress. Things begun during the return years don't tend to last. That being said, there is no harm with you looking and beginning to spread your wings. In fact, this is an opportune time to get started because Saturn is providing you with life lessons that you can apply with great success after your 30th birthday. The tarot cards indicate that you are both fearful of being reckless and worried about endings (2 of swords) but that you will always remain connected, even if apart. Reunions (The Pope) are ongoing. I also see an unusual woman for you but it will take about a year and you have to disconnect first. It may be someone who you know....
Q. will pisces have any luck in love or money ???
A.In order to see your full chart, I would need to have your place of birth. I would then calculate your natal chart and see what sign is on the cusp of your money house and on your love house. That being said, you are probably feeling the pinch of pluto in sagittarius which is trolling through that sign for the next few years. It is "squaring" your sun which is a frustrating aspect that brings with it many changes - some welcome and some not, some anticiapted and some not. When the sun enters your own sign in february, you may see soem relief or some way of mavong forward in your goals. Make the most of this time. ALso, as MArs sits in Scorpio this month, you will feel energized and your actions can have some positive results.
Q. I have been having a great relationship with an Aries (3/30/73, 12:16pm). We have been dating for almost 8 months and talk about the future and plans for the long term... but I'm a bit of a committment-phobe. I've been in relationships before that felt right, only to break a heart or be heartbroken myself... Do we have a real chance at forever?
A.I would be willing to cut you some slack for your fear of commitment because you have really just just emerged from your three year Saturn Return (27-30) where you may have been put through the ringer emotionally. You have sun in Cancer, moon in scorpio and venus in gemini which is an interesting combination - you are basically a very emotional and caring person but in a one to one love relationship you may come off as less romantic, more platonic and may have a wandering eye. (or able to handle two + babes at once!) Maybe this is why you think you have had cross signals in the past that have led you to be heart broken or doing the breaking yourself. You new girlfriend has sun in Aries, moon in Aquarius and venus in aries. Lots of spit and fire in her! There is great potential especially with her moon in aquarius which can make her as platonic emotionally as you are in a love relationship. A rather good connection! The only thing you may want to keep in mind is that Aries women need room to roam and do the oursuing or there is no pursuit. Check out my book "HerScopes; A Guide to Astrology for Lesbians" to get the whole delicious story.
Q. I only this year realized who I really am and I ended up going to lesbian chat rooms (and not into cyber but good talks about this). So I met an amazing woman who lives in CT with her boyfriend and I currently live in Canada and I may be moving close to her in 2 months and I don't know am I crazy for doing this? I may be able to go to Boston next weekend to meet her and I'm in love with her and I just want to know are we crazy (we always say that) for all this? I need help, we both do, we just want to feel normal.
A.Congratulations! I'm not sure if this answer will reach you in time for your weekend, however the tarot cards say that you will have a wonderful platonic connection - I don't see any "cup" cards which indicate love - but that you will stay in touch (The Pope)and have a reunion once you transfer for your job (Ace of Wands). Not bad for your first cyber chat! So how did it go when you met?
Q. Hi, thank you for your time! I've spent the last 40 years of my 40 years coming to terms with the fact that i'm a lesbian (THERE!! i said/typed it!). That said, will there be a lovelife for me? I'm pretty well closeted..does anyone suspect?
A.Welcome and congratulations! Well, I asked the tarot cards if you will meet a wonderful woman in six months and the cards were very interesting - I see great promise, love, fertility (The Empress) and getting your wish (9 of cups) but there is some frustration (4 of swords), a state of suspension (The Hanged Man) and fear of it not being worth the effort (8 of pentacles). She is creative, emotional and maybe a heart breaker (The Moon) but a wonderful introduction. (Which the cards seem to indicate is just what you need now...) You may have to take some risks - are you prepared? Please keep in touch and let me know how it goes.
Q. I have a crush on one of my lesbian friends...we made out but she's kind of talking to someone else...will I get shafted?
A.I asked the tarot cards if this girl is for you and they say that she is, on the one hand, just who you want (The Chariot), but on the other hand, she comes with loads of problems (The Devil). These problems must be solved before your relationship will be successful. Are you both committed to overcoming these issues?
Q. ive just broken up with my lover , traumatic but we both agree healthier. we're thinking of a casual relationship later because there's still a lot of love there. its all a bit chaotic. she's born november the 9th 1977. what do you reckon?
A.Well, you have sun in virgo and venus, the planet of love in passionate, intense Scorpio. She has sun in scorpio and venus in charming airy and romantic Libra. With your venus in scorpio, I doubt whether you can maintain a casual relationship with her. You are passionate in your love and rather jealous and possessive. The idea of sharing her with others would not sit well with your for long. Your girlfriend ont he other hand, may be able to handle more than one lover at a time with her venus in Libra. My advice, don't do halfway. Scorpio energy is never half way.
Q. my girlfriend and i have been together for 14 months...she is a taurus...may 16, 1982...and i was just wanting to know if are compatable and will be together forever...we are completely in love and have future hopes of starting a business together..please give me your insight... thanks!
A.If I had both of your birthtimes, I could gauge both business and love compatibiliy by astrology. However, tarot works too! The cards say that this is the beginning of a wonderful relationship. The Wheel of Fortune brings luck and the Knight of Cups shows thoughts of love. It is not without its frustrations (4 of swords) but it is also good for making money (5 of Pentacles). Hard work (and play) pays off.
Q.I have been talking to my girlfriend for about 6 months now, through the net. We have only been a couple for 3 months. We have not met yet, but the feelings are very strong, and they are mutual. I will visit her in feb, but our connection seems to be real intense. I want your advise on persuing this relationship further, and if you have insight on what our future may bring. Thanks.
A.The tarot cards give very interesting information when I asked if this relationship would last longer than a year (which is an eternity for some of us....) Yes, (The Sun card is your great wish) but it will be a lot of work (Strength card) and will require patience (Temperance card). There are thoughts of love (Knight of cups) but will require ending something so you can begin this with a clean slate (10 of swords). Good luck and let me know how it goes!
Q. why every time i need to talk to my mom in my mind i think that i should keep it a secret?
A. The cards say that your mom is very practical (Page of pentacles) and worries about you and maybe worries about things in general (Ace of Swords). Maybe you don't want to add to her worries. If you decide to talk to her, it will make a world of difference (World Card) but there will be no turning back.
Q. can i stay for 3 years on my present job
A. The tarot cards say "yes". The Sun (your big wish) and the Magician (energy) say that you will work hard and succeed. There will be a surprising (4 cups) amount of money from your work (4 of Pentacles) but you will work hard (9 pentacles). Direct your energy efficiently.
Q. Dear Madam. I'm scorpio and here is my story. More than one year ago I met a leo and an aries. This hole year they have turned around my head and I don't know which one I must stay with. They are both sweet and worry about me, but are as proud as me to tell things, specially when talking about feelings. Which one should I fight for? Their birth dates are: aries 13/4/80; leo 11/8/80. THANKS.
A. You have sun in scorpio and venus (the planet of love) in capricorn. Your aries has venus in gemini while your leo has venus in cancer. My suggestion is the leo who's venus in cancer is well matched with yours. You speak the same language of love. Let me know how it goes!
